Posted by Joke at 12:32 AM
bluemountainsmary posted at 2:41 AM, July 12, 2008
Do you think it is the Catholic in us that makes us uneasy about such things?
Frogdancer posted at 3:14 AM, July 12, 2008
I think that the only good thing that comes from friends breaking up is that it makes everyone around them re-evaluate their relationships, and things can be aired and talked about before the corrosive stage hits.
I know that that's what happened when Tony and I split 12 years ago.
MsCellania posted at 2:02 PM, July 12, 2008
The only ones winning in swords' drawn scenarios is the attorneys. Who take great delight in riling up the pot, all in the name of 'representation'. I hope there is court-appointed counsel for their children, who are the biggest losers in such cases.
In divorce, I think the kids should get the house, all the inclusions and their old lifestyle (same school, camps, clubs, etc). The parents get separate apartments and visit the children, separately, in their old home. That way, it's the adults that are inconvenienced by their selfishness, not the children.
Poppy Buxom posted at 5:30 PM, July 12, 2008
I most emphatically do not think it's a Catholic thing.
Of course, I don't get uneasy at these times. I go into mourning. Every man's divorce diminishes me.
Sarah O. posted at 5:59 PM, July 12, 2008
We super WASPs cringe at divorce, too.
When will people figure out that, if you've got kids, divorce is not the easy way out, that it complicates everything and hurts the kids in ways the parents can't imagine?
Unless one or both of the parents suffers from violent, uncontrolable mental illness, I say Grow the %&%$ up and be good to each other.
Joke posted at 11:22 PM, July 12, 2008
In my case, the Inner Catholic can only explain so much of my unease.
Another part of it is "which friend will keep custody of us?" because in our experience, when a couple breaks up, one of them vanishes out of our lives.
Yet another aspect is something like the newsreel narrator when the Hindenburg went down. Something awful is going on and all you can do is feel bad.